For a while now I have wanted to write a post about me. We have all met those people that think they have you figured out but lets be honest usually their predictions are always wrong unless of course for some reason they know you better then you indeed know yourself. Whatever the case… Guys, this is me.

I don’t kiss on the first date.

Growing up, I was boy crazy. I was fearless and gave my heart to anyone who wanted it. I thought that being loved by many people felt better then feeling loved by just one person who in return actually loved me.  I trusted anyone who gave me a good enough reason and the minute it started to not work out – I would leave. Through situations I have noticed a change. I have this invisible guard up now that for some reason can’t be broken down. I don’t trust as easily anymore and I have decided that I can take care of my heart better than any guy could attempt to. It’s the change of maybe maturing and realizing I deserve better but maybe its also be a little of being scared that I may actually fall in love again.

I like the feeling of being independent.

As a little girl, I was always ready for the next stage in life. I shouldn't say ready but that I felt ready. I rushed my childhood and just anticipated what being older would feel and be like. I grew up to fast as my parents would say but that statement is followed by truth. I enjoy being independent and doing things on my own. It’s a way of me feeling established and feel like I am accomplishing things. I have never liked someone telling me what to do and if they ever tried I was stubborn and would purposely do the opposite. Now, I believe that being independent is important but also knowing when to be dependent is just as important.

I have dreams.

When you were younger it was always a wonder what you were going to do when you were older. My childhood dream was working in a Payless shoe store, the reason for that, or at least I think the reason for that was because I loved shoes so much. When I got older and really started thinking of what I wanted to do and through life I have come up with a pretty good bucket list. I still think it would be the coolest thing ever to be a dental hygienist. I want to complete a triathlon before the age of 30. I want back pack through Europe with just my camera. And if I could be good at anything it would be singing and playing the piano. 

I don’t do well with options.

Ask me where I’d like to go eat, what color sheets I want, really anything simple and I can make up my mind. 98% of the time, I know what I want and don’t have a hard time making decisions. But as far as huge decisions- that’s a lot harder for me esp when I have options. I have set July as a big decision making month. I have pondered a lot of things these past weeks and will continue to just see where life takes me these next couple of months until July.

I love this gospel.

I have never struggled with having a testimony of the Book of Mormon or the truths of the gospel. They are true and I know they are true. The only books that I can get into are church books – I think reading about how to better myself is the most beneficial reading. I am very close to my family. Wither that started because of my knowledge of how the next life works or not, I have chosen to be close with my family and I see the rewards of it. My relationships with my parents and my siblings continue to get stronger the older I get and it’s been such a blessing in my life.

As of late:

I am enjoying everyday just figuring out who I am. I believe that before we can be in any kind of relationship, we need that time to truly find out who we are and what we want in this life. We need to know what it feels like to be alone, and be happy alone before we can appreciate what its like to be happy with someone. That is exactly what I am doing and I am so happy. It feels good to finally be me again.  

You….? Really?

We all have that one person in our lives. It doesn't matter how many years have passed. It doesn't matter if we have moved on and found better. In all honesty, nothing would change the fact that… You will ALWAYS be attracted to them. Always.

What I have found is that the reason is deep, almost buried, and you have to really dig deep before you’ll ever understand why is has always been this way with them.

You have found a way to know this person for who they really are. You have found a way to figure out their likes and dislikes without communication. It’s some kind of invisible bond that connects you to this person. You are connected to this person in other ways that seem to mean more.

There is this guy in my life that I feel this way about. It doesn't matter what happens in our lives, we always come back to each other. We always have that feeling of it’s been too long since I've seen you last. We go out. We talk for hours. We hug goodbye. We go back to reality and life goes on.

I am sure we have both had those moments when we wonder if maybe we should just try us but that thought slowly fades away with unspoken words.

People come and go in our lives each day…. But you, You decided to stay for a while. 

2013

We have all wondered at some point in our lives if the grass is indeed greener somewhere else. We have times when we want to test that statement out but fear of some kind is usually the factor in holding us back. Fear of leaving what feels familiar to us or maybe even just fear of the unknown.

In just this past year I have lived in six different states. Pride does not follow that statement what so ever. I will tell you that the grass is never greener no matter how down to earth the little town may be or even how grand you think life in the big apple would be like.

We make choices in our lives sometimes for other people that we think at the time would make a difference. We confused the statement of fighting for someone and being naive as two different things when in reality sometimes it should be classified as the same thing.

Or we have thoughts of just wanting to run away. We think life alone in a place would make us happier. The low life, simple life, would humble us and make us happier. When in fact after feeling alone, it is at that moment we want to go back.

I am no stranger to wanting to just change the cards that I have been dealt. I am no stranger to just wanting something different for myself.

But through all those moves and life lessons I have come to realize that happiness is found within. When we are at peace with the life we have, it doesn't matter if we have it all or have nothing, we won’t be happy where we are at until we are indeed happy with where we are at.

My resolution for 2013:

Finally unpack the suitcase that has been packed for to long. 

Stop Time.

I have often wondered what things would be like if I were to just stop in place. Would I enjoy a sunset set longer, would a conversation develop into something more, would I decide on my own that this may not be where I want to be in life.

We get caught up in the rush of things that time slips through our fingers and before we know it its tomorrow. Knowing we can never change whatever happened that previous day.

I had a very deep conversation with the Lord the other night and I had this overwhelming feeling come upon me. It was as if Heavenly Father was present before my eyes and I could feel his love for me stronger than ever before.

That conversation we held that night is one that I will always hold close. I remember tears coming down my face because I didn't want to leave. I didn't want this moment of feeling so close to him, to leave. I didn't want to go to sleep knowing that maybe with time I would soon get caught up in life and forget him again.

I remember wanting to just know how his day had been that day. So many times I come to the Lord in my times of need not thinking that maybe he needs someone this time instead. Did he see someone’s life change that day, was he reunited with an old friend, did I do something that made him smile that day? I just wanted to know.

Two nights later, I was in the presence of someone I care a lot about. I wanted to pause time with this person.  I wanted to just laugh and play all day because it was easier to do that then to think about the reality.  As I left him that night, I had those same feeling come over me. I wanted to just pause time because being there with him, it felt safe again. Tears rolled down my cheeks once again for the reality of tomorrow changing this moment.

If I could I would stop time.

I would stop time for those wanting just a few more minutes.

For in those few minutes of the day changing, so much can happen. So much can change. 

Let’s Talk

This week I went on a blind date. I would be lying if I said that this was my first blind date. Let me just tell you…sometimes it would be better if blind dates meant you were indeed blind. Needless to say, this date started off great. He was very handsome and had a cute charm to him. We sat down at the table and the third question this young man asked me was…

“So Lindsey, have you been in any serious relationships?”

In my mind I was thinking… well isn’t this getting personal real fast…

I answered by saying…

“I dated a guy for two years in high school; I’ve had flings since then and actually just got out of an engagement in January.”

His response…

“Ummm wow, you were engaged? That’s crazy!! Well you are kind of old so that makes sense…”

I wasn’t quite sure what to think about that statement. I was a little taken back because not only was this young man only twenty three but he was letting me know that twenty one is now considered the new old.

The dating world sure is entertaining. I have been taken on some very interesting dates. Some I will never forget because they were just that fun and some that I wish I could forget because they were just that weird.

I don’t think anyone enjoys “dating”. Yes, when it works out in your favor and they end up being your spouse, well yes its lovely but for all the thousand dates that go wrong for that one that goes right… let’s be honest… I’m starting to understand why people give up. It truly is like finding a needle in the haystack.

When I was eighteen, dating was fun. I loved looking at my day planner with Monday thru Saturday having each meal being covered by a date. It was perfect. I had a little routine and thought I had the “dating game” all figured out.

Relationships and flings have come and gone since eighteen.

I don’t have the dating game figured out like I use to at eighteen but I will say I can tell you exactly what I want in a guy and what I don’t want.

I now stand here twenty one.

I don’t know when being mature started being classified as being boring but that would be me.

I would very much appreciate if the Lord just placed Mr. Future Husband at my door step. I would promise to take great care of him and love him with everything that I have. I would never let him go and thank the Lord each day for placing him on my door step. 

If only. 

I have come to the realization that...

Its okay not to be okay. 

Myself

You would know…

My eyes: Will tell you exactly how I am feeling

My hands: Always soft to perfection with vanilla lotion

My voice: Has the capacity to change lives

My legs: Know the feeling of being free

My feet: Have gotten me to where I stand today

My taste buds: Have the capability of knowing sweet from sour

My brain: Remembers even the slightest memories

My heart: Loves even the smallest things that are meant to become great

My testimony: Is what defines me

Decorate

So you decided to see me out of the blue

Should I let you come over

I think you’re doing fine

That girl in your arms does she know where you come from

Almost made me move out of town

You don’t want me to be around

But I stayed anyway

Just in case

Finding reasons to hate you more than before

Like how you said you would call

but never at all

Got rid of your number that I know by heart

You left your things at my place

As if I have all the space

But you know I don’t mind

Just come back when you think it’s time

I’m all black and white inside

Monotonous from left to right

I decorate my house with things you love

Just in case you show up

In case you show up

Beautiful Heartbreak

Every fear, every doubt,
All the pain I went through;
Was the price that I paid to see this view;
And now that I'm here I would never trade...

The grace that I feel,
And the faith that I find;
Through the bitter-sweet tears,
And the sleepless nights;

I used to pray he'd take it all away,
But instead it became a beautiful heartbreak.  

I reflect on my life events that have occurred in the past year and see a roller coaster. There were many times I would cry unto the Lord just wanting some kind of understanding of what was going on. I wanted a glimpse into my future. I just wanted to see where I needed to go. But how grateful I am now for the Lord letting me test the waters and figure things out.

I stand here today with a great appreciation for prayer. I have gained a testimony for the power of prayer. I will admit I have had times in life when prayer seemed hopeless but I have really seen a difference in my life. The Lord continues to answer my greatest prayers. He is there just waiting for me to reach out to him for answers and help.

I stand here today with a different love for the Lord. A greater love. I have seen his hands shape me and shape my life like a beautiful piece of art. He has been there blessing me daily with opportunities of growth. I witness his love for me, a daughter of god, daily.

I stand here today more grateful than ever before for my family. The years go on and we are hit with more and more challenges. I am grateful that we have become such a close family. My siblings have become my comfort.  My parents have become examples to me in so many ways I never knew possible.

Today I stand here stronger then I have been in a long time. I am forever grateful for the gospel that I have in my life. I am forever grateful for the knowledge I have. I am forever grateful for my Savior.

 

Every once in a while we need to fill up our spiritual cup. Sometimes we forget how empty our cup is. I had an amazing opportunity to refill my cup by attending General Conference in Salt Lake City this past weekend. I cannot even begin to describe to you how powerful the spirit was during the Sunday session.  I could feel our Heavenly Father presence as I sat there listening to talks prepared by amazing men of our church.

My friend brought a girl from Brazil to the session with us. Tears streamed down her cheeks as the realization set in that she was sitting in fount of our Prophet. This had been a dream of hers to come to the States and watch conference live. The spirit truly testified to her of how amazing our church really is. I am grateful for the worthy young man who baptized her family and gave her this great opportunity.

I am too grateful for her. As I watched her during the session my testimony was truly strengthen. I take for granted all that I am blessed with. I forget about how important the little things are and its people like her that help me to remember how amazing our church really is. How our religion changes so many lives. It brings hope and comfort in so many people’s and we truly are blessed souls on this earth.